No Validation Needed

Lately, I’ve been wondering why we ask other people, do you like this? Is this cute? What do you think about this?

Why do we need validation from other people? There have been many times where I’ve really liked something but I didn’t wear it or didn’t buy it because I asked if someone else liked it and they said no.

I’m in a place in life where that no longer matters to me. Side note: That doesn’t mean I can do whatever I want to do because I like to do it. This means that I don’t need someone else to agree with me that something should be liked/loved or not.

If you like the shirt, shoes, bag, get it! Wear it!

I’ve been in several situations where I’ve been like “where are their friends?” because they had on something I didn’t like. Why does it matter whether I like it or not? Now, if it’s obscene, that’s a different story. But if it’s just not my style, it truly doesn’t matter.

If we all started focusing more on what we like or love and less on what we hate about other people, we would be so much further ahead in our own lives.

xoxo

You don’t have to finish strong…

This was the caption under someone’s instagram post and it was a huge epiphany for me! You don’t have to finish the end of the year strong.

For many people, including myself, finishing strong would mean going above and beyond to reach a goal we’d set for ourselves this year. But sis is tired. Sis does not have it in her. At this point, I’m beyond grateful just to finish the year…. PERIODT!

For the end of 2023, I’d like to revisit my goals and get into focus for the new year. In my last post, I said you can refocus whenever YOU need to. So if you need more time to focus, IT’S OKAY! Focus and refocus when you are ready.

Rest in the fact that God does ALL things well. Things will happen exactly when they are supposed to.

xoxo

Refocus Right Now

Why do we always wait until the first of the year to focus on our goals? It lasts for like a month and then we are back to doing the same old things we were doing before. Last year, I stopped making new years resolutions. I’ve started looking at the long list of goals I have for myself at the 1st of every month. What I have started. What have I not started and why not. Where do I need to make adjustments to actually achieve what I’ve written down.

I recently wrote my long list of goals out again and I was a little disappointed. I just started thinking I should have accomplished more. Granted, I was in recovery for a bit and now it’s time to really get to it. Little by little, I’m going to do what God has placed in my heart to do.

How long are you going to let those same goals sit on your list? Don’t wait until the new year to do what you can do right now! Refocus! Right now! Believe that you can achieve those goals even if no one else believes in you. Don’t tell everyone what you are doing either. Just show up when it’s done!

I’m rooting for you!

xoxo

The first of many…

I used to write journal entries all the time. Detailing recent events that had happened in my life or what I was feeling that day. It was a way to help me relax, relate and release. I stopped for a while but I’ve decided to start again. Here. To help others realize that they aren’t alone in their situation or thinking.

It’s currently my golden time of day. Which happens to be night. My husband is in the living room playing his video game and my daughter has just fallen asleep. ME TIME! I usually use this time to either scroll through social media, play solitaire or think about ways that I could be more productive even though I never actually end up more productive.

Well, that changed today. I’m stepping onto the first step of what God is calling me to. I’m not completely sure what it is yet but I know it’s something greater than me.

I’m going to use this to talk about everything. Not just what I’m going through or what I’m feeling but also what I like and what I’m passionate about. I like any and everything girly which includes hair, makeup, clothes, shoes, bags, nails….. I'm starting to become more interested and passionate about health because of my own personal battles. When I learn something, I want to share it and show it.

Note to self: Do it. Afraid. Unsure. Uneducated. God will be with you and guide every single step of the way.

xoxo